Friday, May 17, 2019

Word of the week: TMI!

Oh dear, this weeks word is an easy one:

Yes, I'm going there!
I'm sorry, if you're of a sensitive nature, you might want to look away now, but you shouldn't. This is a subject that we don't talk about enough, especially since 50% of the worlds population will go through it!

We don't talk about periods, or menopause, enough. I've never really understood why. I was the only female child, which meant my mother only had to do this once, she could've thrown a pamphlet at me and left me to it. She didn't. She always explained what was going on with my body, so I was never frightened. Even now, as a middle aged woman, she is still talking me through it, letting me know what's normal.

Why can't we all do this?
Why is something so normal, such a taboo subject?

I've had three sons, so you'd think I didn't have to have the period conversation, yet I still have. I've never hidden my sanitary products, never shied away from telling them why I'm being a moody bitch at certain times of the month. They are going to have females in their lives, they should be prepared, maybe a little sympathetic!

Right now, I think I'm Peri-menopausal, so I'm getting some of the symptoms, yet still getting periods. Unfortunately, at this stage they can become very heavy, like I can't go anywhere heavy, and I'm up several times a night. This month truly floored me.

It's also affecting my mental health, I've always struggled, for as long as I can remember actually. This is different though, because I know the reason (again, thanks to my mother). I'm feeling useless, like a piece of unwanted, old, furniture that holds sentimental value, but of no real use.
My logical brain tells me this is stupid, the rest of me just wants to curl up in bed and cry. I want to hide from everyone, although I'll happily talk on social media. It's easy to open up, phone to phone, rather than face to face.

I felt like I had to say this, this week, with it being Mental Health Awareness week. Remember, even if you can't say it out loud, someone will respond to a message.

I'm trying to find things to make me smile, or at least keep my brain at peace. One of these things is walking my dog, with music in my ears. I took this photo today:

That's me, unfiltered and content. Find what works for you. Granted, I haven't been able to do this enough, this week, but I did today. 
It made such a difference.
It gave me the ability to say to my husband 'I'm struggling'.
It stopped my brain going at 100mph.
It gave me 30 minutes of just me.

Find what works and do it.
We can't stop the tide of life. We can't control our hormones, our bodies, as females, hold control there.

Hope this all made sense, maybe my mind is still running at 100mph!


16 comments:

  1. I have always been open and honest with my girls about all things women! I think if I was to have a boy I would be the same too, open and up front about periods too.
    Bless you! Heavy periods are the worst. I have the contraceptive implant in and towards the end of the 3 year cycle my periods start coming back and become heavier and longer. I am due to get it changed in December so I am no fun at the moment. lol
    Gorgeous photo of you and your dog. You do look so content.

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    1. I'm glad you're open with your girls, I think it's so important. Thank you, I was quite content x

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  2. Your mother sounds wonderful. So good to have someone to guide you through it all. Totally agree to make sure boys understand too. I've had some interesting conversations with my son about it! I'm glad my children all feel comfortable to talk to me. Dogs are wonderful and I'm not sure what I'd do without mine. #wotw

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    1. My mother is wonderful, I don't know what I'd do without her advice x

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  3. Oooh! I remember those days when my periods were so heavy, I never knew what to expect. Ugh! I am glad all that is over with now. One of the benefits of getting older! :)

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    1. I'm so looking forward to it being over! x

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  4. I am pleased you are talking about such matters, it is insane how many people (including women) who won't talk about such matters, how will we understand if we are not being honest X #wotw

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    1. Exactly! We really need to open up about it more x

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  5. Hormones, wouldn't life be simpler without them ! I agree with you about being honest and open with kids, I was totally clueless and never had the talk with my parents. I think I might be getting some symptoms of the menopause too, my periods are totally different now and I'm often awake for hours at a time during the night. I'm glad you can say it out loud and look for positive ways to help yourself.

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    1. Much simpler! It's a confusing time, the menopause, I'm just riding the wave x

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  6. Oh it's so good to see things change. My Mum and my nan both had hysterectomies quite early after having their last babies so didn't really have menopausal symptoms, but I know they would never have talked about it. They didn't talk about other women's problems, even called periods a curse! I talk to my girls though, and after going through the menopause myself I'm hoping that few symptoms is a family trait after all. :) Big hugs and I hope you get the help and support you need xx

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    1. I remember the curse! lol I'd forgotten until I read this x

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  7. Hormones are definitely something we don't talk about enough. Heavy periods like that must be a complete nightmare. Hope that they've stopped for now at least. I love the photo of you with your dog. Glad it gave you some time to be just you and to be able to express that you're struggling. Makes things easier when you can do that. I hope this week will be an easier one for you. #WotW

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    1. They are a nightmare, for at least one day I'm totally housebound. I'm lucky to have someone that listens, when I'm struggling x

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  8. That is a nightmare, it is hard going. I love that photo of you with the dog, so sweet xx #wotw

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