Friday, October 14, 2016

Abilities, not Disabilities

I'm trying to write more, so I'm seeking inspiration from others. The inspiration from this post came from something First time Valley mam said (please take a look at her blog, it's an excellent look into life as a SEND parent).

She has written a post about the things her son, Z, CAN do.

Often, as parents of children with special needs, we are constantly having to tell people what our children are unable to do. Ajax struggles in so many ways and RJ will forever struggle with interpreting language (particularly body language).

However, I'm not focusing on that today.

I'm focusing on the what they CAN do:

Ajax has discovered a love of words. Even when he's glued to the television, he has to have the subtitles on. He wants to read everything, yesterday I was given a free paper with my shopping, cue my son sitting and reading the Independent!

He can create all sorts of things out of Blu-Tac, he loves the stuff! (he had 3 packets in his Xmas stocking last year). The things he makes are easily recognisable too, he will recreate creatures he has seen, to the finest detail. He is rarely seen without a piece in his hand.

Then there is RJ. His talent with a guitar is incredible, he regularly blows me away with his talent. He will listen to a song then re-create it within hours.

We bought him a Ukulele, last summer, within hours he had learnt a new song.

When he decides to learn something new, he'll do it really quickly. He learnt to ride a bike in hours, even though we'd been trying to teach him for years, but fear held him back. When he decided he was ready, he got on and rode. He was the same with swimming. Years of swimming lessons, he never got it, never cared. Then, one holiday he decided he wanted to learn, by the end of the week he was swimming a length of the pool, unaided.

Don't ever underestimate a child because they have special needs, but on the other side of the coin: Not all autistic children are like Rain Man! It's simply that they discover something they love, and understand, and obsess over it.

All 3 of my sons are incredibly artistic, and creative, in their own ways.

It's simply my job to nurture it.........and shout from the rooftops how awesome they are!


  1. It is important to nurture and celebrate our children's talents and to look for them! It's so easy to be forever trying to help them improve other skills that we can miss the talents they actually have - I know I'm guilty of that x

  2. What a great post...
    Your boys are wonderful.
    I am guilty of focusing on what my girls can't do instead of what they can do.


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