My 13 year old planted the seed for this blog post, while we were at the cinema, the other evening.
He questioned what people must think when they see us coming? He described us as: a really tall teen, 2 autistic kids, a man on crutches and a woman with multi-coloured hair.
|The best picture I have of us all!|
He is right.
My eldest son is at least 6'3", possibly taller, and hasn't really finished growing yet.
My middle boy has to talk all the time, it's almost like a way of processing the information his brain gets. I must seem like an awful parent, as I'm constantly shushing him! Sometimes he has to learn to wait his turn and, people aren't very accepting of a 'normal' looking 13yo boy constantly butting in.
My youngest gets excited, or stressed, and deals with it by rocking, running, flapping and talking to himself. Again, people can't always understand that.
Then there's my husband. Between his deteriorating knees and his scoliosis of the spine, he can't walk without crutches. He can't sit too long, or stand to long (the cinema is extremely uncomfortable for him, but the boys love it, so he suffers).
Lastly, me. She of the multi-coloured hair. I can't help it, it makes me smile!
The question is: Why should I give a damn what people think? This is what I'm trying to teach my children, that if people don't like the way you look, tell them not to look!
We live in such a judgement filled society, where everyone has an opinion on your lifestyle/choices/parenting. I can't be that person, it's not in me to judge. If I do, it's in private, or in a discussion with Mr. Ojo, because other people's lives are not my business!
If someone was being harmed, of course I'd speak up, but to the authorities.
We aren't tied to anyone we don't choose to be!
So what do you think others think when they see you coming?
And, do you actually care?