Saturday, July 11, 2015

Heartbreaking Pride

It seems my 2 eldest boys are sharing a flare for the artistic side, with KJ achieving distinctions in Interactive Media Studies, and RJ is going from strength to strength with his music. This week he has a second hand keyboard, and has used his pocket money to buy a Ukulele!

Their school reports have been beyond amazing. The pride I feel in my boys, and myself, is beyond words.

So I felt I should say something about little A (as he's starting primary this year, he's not so little anymore!).

I'm so, SO, incredibly proud of this boy.
I know that, as far as the meltdown side of autism, I have it quite easy. A is pretty calm a lot of the time, he has his frustrations (mainly to do with speech), but mostly he is calm.

This may have a lot to do with how calm our house is. I'm not a big fan of the shouting and smacking type of parenting. I'm not saying I never shout, because I do, but it's rare. I also tend to keep things tidied away, so it's not so overwhelming for the boys. Christmas was a big eye opener for this, when I bought my boys less, Xmas became much easier. 

So, yes, he's calm, but he's still autistic. I was also told, very early in the diagnosis, that he would most likely be non-verbal. 

So far, he is proving it all wrong!

He is speaking, quite clearly, although he still struggles to make himself understood, sometimes. 
He is finally reading.
He is showing improvements in maths.
And he is finally, reluctantly, writing a few words.

His school report reflected this, and I am so proud of how far he has come.

However, when I read these reports, I also realise how far behind the other children he is, and that is a little heartbreaking. 

It shouldn't be, but it is.

I will keep on motivating him though, and Mr.Ojo will continue to read with him. 

He's such a beautiful boy, I sometimes forget he has issues. I wish he didn't have to read the report, then I wouldn't have reminders.

Because he's nothing short of perfect to me, just like his big brothers.


  1. Sharing your pride too. You both do such a fantastic job with your kids. They all are a wonderful credit to you both x

  2. They sound incredibly easy to be proud of right now you both work hard with A esp not just school. I know what you mean about feeling proud but being aware of their difference against their peers, its tough. Have you seen Cirus Mums Pride Linky? This is a perfect post xx

  3. What a lovely post. He sounds like an amazing boy and you are an amazing mum. x

  4. Your boys are absolutely amazing, a real credit to you and they are lucky to have such wonderful caring parents. Well done boys, especially little A - you show 'em kiddo! Thanks for linking up with #loudnproud x


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