I have been asking myself this question quite a lot lately. It came to light again the other day. I was chatting to my mum in her garden as I was leaving, when someone came up to the gate to say something to my her, and I intentionally turned away!
This 'someone' was someone I knew from school days. She always bothered with the same set of catty girls..........still does in fact. Although most of those girls have changed, I cannot shake the feeling that she hasn't.
I take one look at her and the same hatred simply bubbles to the surface. Don't get me wrong, she never bullied me (she had a go at saying something the one day, but I never really cared, so she didn't take it further). I just didn't like the sort of person she was, what she represented......and apparently I still don't.
I have spoken to her in passing, in the past. That was when I was a timid, frightened, person though. I am not that woman anymore and cannot shake the feeling that she is still the same person.
So does that make me judgemental, or just unable to leave the past behind?
I have always been very quick to judge people, but that is partly because I am a very good judge of character, I am rarely wrong. I tend to look at peoples faces and know if they are warm and affectionate, or if they are shy. I can normally tell if they are outright horrible people, then I stay away.
So, I probably am judgemental.........But is that such a bad thing?
I don't think it is, not if I am only doing it for self preservation, not to be horrible to people.
Are you judgemental? Do you think it's good or bad?
I would love to hear opinions on this.