There was an open letter doing the rounds recently. It was from a mum to the man sat in the seat next to her autistic daughter. I recommend you read it, I really do. This is the link:
Please read it, if you haven't already. It's quite emotional.
It got me wondering, if I could look back at anyone that I have encountered, and there was. However, I've done my usual, and flipped it on its head.
So, this is to the lady at the church, during my middle sons Christmas concert.
Thank you for your ignorance that Eve. I'd had no choice but to bring little A to his brothers concert. I had no one to take care of him, and I wasn't going to miss his brother singing a solo in church!
Thank you for muttering about my lack of parenting skills under your breathe. It made me realise how many people care about our welfare. I got a bit angry and upset about your comment, but the people around us got so angry. The people who understood, they cared.
I thank you for making me look deeply at my parenting. You really opened my eyes that day. I thought you should know, I'm actually a good mum. My son didn't scream the church down (oh and by the way, in case you do give a crap, churches are a really difficult sensory experience for my son), and that was because I took things to distract him.
I'm now very careful where I take my son. I try to avoid places that may 'set him off'. I would hate for him, as he gets older, to have to deal with people like you.
So I thank you, the mother at the the church, that passed judgement on me. I thank you, because I realised you were in the wrong, not me. I now know to ignore or educate ignorance like yours, and I will teach my children the same.
Hopefully you won't teach your child your ignorance