So yesterday I finally started to get answers about me, and today I finally found someone to help with R. Maybe a corner is being turned...
If you've read this blog before you will know that I've been in a lot of pain lately. I've complained on here, I've complained at home....I've complained so much!! Yesterday my hubby finally got me in front of my doc.
Honestly he just told me pretty much what I expected, my ankle probably has arthritis already, and my knees and back, if not already arthritic, will be in the next few years. I have been referred for physio to try and manage the pain, and a healthy dose of pain killers in the mean time.
I'm not sure how I feel about all this yet, I think it's going to take time to process the information and what it means to my family. I don't exactly have children that will understand why mam needs a crutch some days, or what it means to them. I already find it difficult to go anywhere alone with all 3 children, but to do this on a crutch is near impossible!
On to today....
I had a visit from Action for Children. It was something I'd been referred too last year and had been on a waiting list. Quite frankly I'd forgotten, I didn't even know what they were about, what service they were offering!?
Turns out it was parental support. I actually enjoyed the company and chat for an hour! They were here to advise me on what they could do for me, from this came the lovely compliment that I seemed quite switched on, and that they weren't sure if they could be much more help! How good did that make me feel?? Fab.
They also pointed out that I seem to have lost myself, that I should realise that I am more than a mum, I'm a person too. I know that I should do something about it and hearing it from someone else is kind of heartbreaking, especially from people that deal with mums all the time.
We then got around to discussing R. Most people see R as a wonderfully intelligent, well mannered boy. Which he is! But they don't see all of him, they don't see the routines and structure that go into a day out with him. No one sees the struggle he goes through if something is not quite right before school in the mornings.
Luckily these two wonderful ladies listened! Actually took in what I was telling them.....yay! So they have decided to meet with him and then look into moving the diagnosis process forward......I really wish I could express how much of a relief this is!
So the last two days have had some major ups and downs. My hubby's disciplinary was dismissed today, huge relief !! It seemed the manager had no idea of a lot that had occurred. It also gave hubby the chance to explain our home situation and just how awkward changes to his rota are, especially last minute ones! It's also resulted in a more understanding boss.
So hopefully things are looking up in my little corner of the world.....