Tuesday, March 27, 2018

Autism Awareness: The everyday

As I said, in yesterdays post (you can read that HERE), it's autism awareness week. I live with it every day, so I'm sharing posts that raise awareness, that will hopefully bring more acceptance.

Monday, March 26, 2018

Autism Awareness; Misconceptions

So, today marks the first day of autism awareness week, or is it month?? It seems to be a subject that courts much disagreement, in the autism community, which is such an odd thing, in my opinion.

Parents will argue over what they want, for their children. Autistic adults will argue over whether we, as parents, have a right to decide. The list goes on. Just some of the things I've read, in the past:

I won't be doing anything, it is my life every day.
I don't want awareness, I want acceptance.
I don't agree with the colour/symbol, being used, it has negative connotations.

I'm doing it my own way:

I'm not going to reveal who made the above statements, because I don't believe I have the right to judge how others deal with awareness days. This post isn't about negativity, it's about leaving people to do what they choose. Why can't we just accept that people want different things and, as long as it's getting the message across, move on.


I decided I'm going to start this month talking about the misconceptions. For example: 

Meltdowns don't always mean a child kicking off in public. I can spot my son struggling, and it doesn't involve screaming and shouting. In fact, just the opposite! He withdraws, he gets tearful, he stops talking, he will attempt to bolt if it all gets too much. Doesn't sound much like a 'meltdown' does it? Yet it can lead to days of struggling with, and for, him.

Sensory issues are another misconception. My son has SPD, along with his autism, Sensory Processing Disorder. Basically it means that most of his senses get confused. You will most commonly hear: 'They don't like loud noises' (They being the universal term for most disabilities). Actually, if you put my son in a car, he likes the windows wide open and the music blasting, even on the motorway! However, a crowd of people, with a lot of other noises, like a city centre: THEN he will struggle. He can run back and forth in the house, for ages. However, take him for a long stroll, his legs will ache in minutes. Sensory issues basically mean his senses are muddled! 

They don't like being touched. Well, actually, my son loves a cuddle! In fact, if you speak to different autism parents, each one would give a different answer. Some need that tight hold, to calm them. Some just need a cuddle because everything is overwhelming them, mum or dads arms are a safe haven.
There are so many things that people are yet to understand, about autism, including me! Every day is a learning curve, every day offers a new way to see the world.

To me, that's a lot to love, whether you want awareness, acceptance, or simply understanding.

Remember us, during Autism Awareness week, ask the question you've always wanted to ask, I'll answer if I can.

Monday, March 19, 2018

Monday Meal Planning

For those of you that are new to reading my page, I used to do a meal plan, every Monday, and share it on here. I don't know why I stopped, because I still meal plan! I find it helps keep me on track, with my Slimming World journey.

I've had a bit of a blip, over the past year, with my weight loss. I self sabotaged a bit, eating crap I didn't even really want, when I wasn't even hungry. However, Mr. Ojo joined with me, in the new year, and we are doing brilliantly together! With our combined ideas, we are eating some gorgeous food, I don't feel like I'm going without, at all.

Thanks to this renewed inspiration, this week I reclaimed this little beauty:

I'm so proud of myself, and the mister. With his disabilities, this is what's best for him, he may struggle to move but he can still be healthy. I'm doing it for the health benefits, but also because I want to be around for as long as my boys need me, which may be a while for my youngest.

So what's on this weeks plan?

Chicken Curry: A firm favourite for us. The curry sauce is made by boiling a small saucepan of frozen cauliflower and broccoli, until soft. Strain when cooked, keeping the water to one side. Blend the vegetables until smooth, adding 2 chicken stock cubes/pots, a tablespoon of medium curry powder and some of the strained water (until you have a consistency you are happy with). Dry fry onion, mushroom and diced chicken, until cooked. Add the sauce and warm through. It's delicious!

Roast Dinner: We have a whole chicken, so a cooked dinner is definitely on the cards. All done on plan, with plenty of veg and a veg gravy (made similar to the curry, except without the curry powder!).

Beef Stew: Fresh beef, diced with all the fat removed, dry fried to brown. Chopped onion, carrot and potato. Add it all to one pot, fill with water and a couple of beef stock pot/cubes, bring to the boil, then leave to simmer for a few hours. Delicious.

Corned beef hash: A tin of low syn corned beef, mashed potatoes, onion powder (because the one child that will eat this doesn't like onions). Served with a side of mixed veg, maybe a sprinkling of cheese on the top.

In all honesty there will probably be another roast dinner, we do love our roasts. We have to go shopping, mid week, so the rest of the meal plan depends on what meat is on offer, when we go.

We mostly start every day with beans on toast, we both love a big breakfast. Lunches tend to be leftovers of the previous nights dinner, great way to save waste!

I would love to hear your meal plan, especially if I can get some ideas from it! 

Let me know your favourite meal.