Wednesday, November 08, 2017

Does it Matter?

We live in a world where, unfortunately, we judge on looks first, above all else. I'm not talking about finding a future partner, but finding employees! 

When you are looking for love, looks would be the first thing you would see. Those looks might not be what others are attracted to, but it's what's important to YOU at that particular moment, that counts.

However, when it comes to employment, shouldn't abilities go beyond the way someone looks?

I put a poll on Twitter, around a week ago, asking if people would be offended if being served in a shop by someone with hair like mine (pictured above). I only had a few responses but the overwhelming answer was NO, why should it bother them?!

I go out and about and people always comment on my hair, the majority of it being positive. One thing I hear a lot of though is: I would love to do that, but work won't let me. 


If a nurse is fully trained, but has blue hair, rather than brown, does it make her less qualified to look after you?
I worked in shops from the age of 16, until my youngest was born. If I went back to it now, would I be less capable because I have rainbow hair?

I know that some people will say it's about looking professional, but that simply brings us back to an antiquated opinion: That buttoned up rule keepers are best for the job.

Yeah OK, because Boris Johnson is just bloody awesome isn't he? Every country leader is far more qualified because they are 'beige', aren't they??

If you walked into your bank tomorrow, to take out a mortgage, would you really judge the lenders competency based on their hair colour?
If you do, it says more about you, than them.

Our world is forever moving forward, maybe it's time our judgements did. We aren't a 'black and white' world, why shouldn't we express ourselves with colour. Even if you wouldn't colour your hair the same, or have a tattoo, does it give you the right to think those that do are less capable?

For all you know that, buttoned down, beige, bank manager, could be covered in tattoos under his suit?

That doesn't bother me.

What's your opinion? 
What would you say if your bank manager had blue hair. Or you nurse had rainbow hair?

Sunday, October 22, 2017

It doesn't get easier, it gets different:

I'm supposed to be doing the Blogtober thing, where I write a post every day for the month of October. I haven't. I simply haven't had the mental energy to do it.

Do you know why?
Because I'm an Autism parent.

The past few weeks, if I'm being honest: since they went back to school, have been hard! My boys aren't naughty, they don't fight, they rarely have meltdowns. All these things we've managed to get a handle on, we've changed the way we treat them, we understand the triggers and avoid them, as best we can. 

Since going back to school, this year, Ajax has struggled. We have had a big step back in his development. We are back to school refusal which really isn't as easy, as you would think, to deal with. He's too big to pick up and carry now, if he won't get out of bed, then that's that. That's hard enough to deal with, but the tears that come with it are heartbreaking! One morning he sobbed for around 2 hours.

We are also back to struggling with food, he's basically eating toast, or noodles, for dinner. He is refusing anything else, unless it's 'junk food'. The thing people without autism in the family don't understand is: my son will not eat, unless it's what he wants. He would rather starve, than eat what's offered.

He's also refusing to speak, when he's in a bad place. It's very hard to fix what's wrong, when you don't know what it is. He just seems sad, all the time. As parents it's heartbreaking to see, I wish I could just give in and keep him home all the time!

He already comes home for lunch, every day. I have to do this, as he doesn't have lunchtime support and I don't feel safe leaving him in the yard with just the normal lunchtime staff. There is nothing wrong with the lunch staff, they are a lovely bunch of ladies, but they have enough of a job on their hands.

On top of all this, he is not sleeping well. He had around 2 hours last night, me and Mr. Ojo were up all night, between us.

We are tired!

I honestly thought that RJ would be the hard work, being high functioning and going through the teen years, but no, he's doing brilliantly! He's at the stage in school where he's doing his choices, and he's away from the boys that were bugging him. He's doing well at school, and home.

The step back in development, that Ajax is going through, is finishing us off. I honestly can't wait for the middle of Nov, when I'm driving up to London, so the mister can watch the rugby. All I can think of is the rest!

Every day I think: 'maybe tomorrow will be better', but it doesn't seem to be.

Oh well
Maybe tomorrow will be better......

Sunday, October 15, 2017

Love, Movies & Novels

I've missed 3 days! (I'm actually writing this on the 4th day, but I'll write that post tonight). That means I've missed L, M & N. So I guess I'll just talk about the movies and books I love!

We are big movie lovers in this house, Mr Ojo and I have always loved cwtching up with a film, and it's rubbed off on our youngest and oldest, our middle one loves the cinema but rarely sits with us to watch a film at home. 

If you leave us alone, it will most likely be a horror on the screen! We have watched some truly awful ones, but we still love them! We also love action and comedy, but we can watch those any time.

Films we love as a couple:

The Grudge: Scared the poop out of me, I actually hid on this one!
The Sixth Sense: Someone told me there was a great twist, at the end of this film. Ruined the film a bit, because I guessed the twist early on! Grrr. Still a great film though.
Saw: The first one will always be the best. Low budget and brilliant.
Die Hard: Any of them! Bruce Willis, a bad guy, and a dirty vest, what more could you want.
Marvel: Again, pretty much any of them.

Films we love as a family:

Peabody and Sherman: It just as well be on repeat in this house, so funny.
Ice Age: I have watched Collision Course so many times this year!
Marvel: (Again). We love Guardians of the Galaxy the most, as a family. Who couldn't love baby Groot?!
Storks: This is another new one that doesn't get dull, the wolves! Watch it, just for them!

Books I Love:

I'm a big book lover, it's rare to see me without a book/kindle near by:

In fact, the book on the picture is part of my current reading list. My hubby spotted the author, while at the library one day. She has a LONG list of 'in death' books, I'm currently on no. 12. It follows a murder detective, set in the future. It's dark, but very well written, if you like a good crime thriller, I would highly recommend.

Another I love is totally different style of book. I've recommended them to loads of people, but no one has taken up the tip yet. It's another series, written by Robert J Crane, that starts with Alone. The first 3 books actually come as a set, free, on Amazon kindle: Girl in a box. It follows the story of Sienna, she's a modern day teen, sarcastic, that's descended from gods, a meta human. Honestly, my description does not do it justice, they are simply awesome books.

Another great read, that my hubby actually read too, it was such a book, is 'The 100 year old man, that climbed out of the window and disappeared'. My history knowledge is not fabulous, so how accurate the historical references are, I don't know. However, if you want a heartwarming, laugh out loud book to read, this would be it.

I could talk all day about the books I've read, or waiting to read, but I have a book waiting for me!

If you read, or have read, any of these do let me know.
What are your favourite films too? 
Are you a horror lover, or hater?