Monday, November 17, 2014

Parenting Styles

As another week starts, there's another question over some celebrity parenting style.

Why? 

I mean is Victoria Beckham really so awful, just for letting her daughter have a dummy at 3? We all know how hard it is to get our children off them!?

This week it's chef Jamie Oliver's turn. Apparently he tricked his daughter into eating a hot pepper, as punishment for being cheeky. We are so judgemental of people's parenting that THIS story made the news!? 

As parents we question the way we bring up our children all the time, or is that just me?

I have brought my children up in quite a relaxed manner. I'm not a shouter, or a smacker. I simply don't believe it works. 

I talk about the things they've done. I've explained when they have done something wrong, taught them to talk it out. 

Having my 2 younger children on the autistic spectrum means routines are important, but teaching them flexibility is also incredibly important for them to live in the real world. 

I think if we all brought our children up the same way, we would produce robots, not human beings that can think for themselves. 
I don't even treat my own children the same! They have different rules and expectations, because they are so utterly different to each other.

My teen is quiet, but so funny. He doesn't go out much, but that's mostly because he finds his own age group quite immature (he's not wrong). He has huge insecurities, about the way he looks, which I'm hoping he grows out of. Those who get to know him are always complimentary. He's a good kid, who is sarcastic, smart, stylish and my rock.

My 11yo is a chatty handful. I have to watch him like a hawk, when his anxieties start to build, I get him out of the way before he erupts. He is musical, intelligent, polite and funny. He's also a real handful!

Little A is happier if left alone........as long as he's not alone! Work that one out!? He will not be any room on his own, but would rather you didn't talk to him or touch him. He is also chatty, smiley, loving and painfully truthful (don't ask him how you look, unless you want the truth).

How could I possibly treat them the same? 
I can love them equally, and I most definitely do, but punishment and praise are doled out according to the individual.

Am I a good parent, who knows??
The only ones that can truly answer that, are my children. They seem to be doing ok, so I can't be that bad.

Really what I'm trying to say is, don't judge took harshly. We don't know what goes on behind closed doors, even with these celebrities. They are not harming their children, that's a whole other matter, so who are we to tell them what to do. 

What's your parenting style? 
How would you feel if someone judged your parenting style? (I'd tell them to get stuffed).


5 comments:

  1. Great post and I totally agree. The media love to manufacture a story from nothing and people always get drawn in!

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  2. Should have added I was popping over from #PoCoLo !

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  3. Before I became a mother I am one of those who judge! When I became one I suddenly understand it. Its hard. Sometimes you win, a lot of times you lose but you learn. I no longer judge people and their parenting styles. I think that what we parents need is support not judgement from the people and institution around us. I can only imagine how much harder it is for famous parents. Their life is always in spotlight. #pocolo

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  4. As you have rightly said, everyone is different - and therefore so are our parenting techniques! At least Jamie Oliver DOES parent his child. There are so many who don't bother. And Grace had her dummy until she was 4 - I just didn't her have it during the day. I think firm but fair parenting is the way to go. Thank you for linking to #PoCoLo :) x

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  5. You're so right, and that's why parents are best placed to bring up their children in the best way for them and their familyl

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