Saturday, July 26, 2014

Blogging Life

I've been meaning to write this post for a while, since BritMums Live really.

Coming from a small village, I find few people generally understand what I do. 

Do you want to know the truth?
I'm not really sure myself.

I started this as a way of recording our life, but it's become so much more. I advertise things, people send me stuff and ask my opinion. I have opinions on things that people care about. I am spreading the word about autism, one person at a time.

 I am now a brand? Still can't get my head around that!

One thing I've found quite hard since brit mums though, is the way the blogging community has changed, since I started 2 years ago.

It has become more like school.

You have:

 Top Class Bloggers
They get great items too review, they have hundreds of followers, people genuinely care about their opinions.

Cool Bloggers
The ones that write like they don't care, they write about the coolest stuff. They will have the coolest photography/photographs. You wish you could be them, but are too scared to talk to them.

The Swats
They really know everything about blogging, and are mostly willing to share their wisdom. They are the people you prey are on Twitter, when you've just accidentally wiped half off your blog posts!

The Angry Group:
They rant and shout, but don't care who they upset or offend. They are not bullies but they have opinions of everybody and nobody is as good as them.

What shocked me at britmums is that, the people I was excited to see, barely gave me the time of day. Where as the ones I was nervous of meeting, were warm and wonderful.

It's thrown everything I feel about the community into disarray. It's also left me wondering where I fit? I'm none of the above!

It's taken til now to realise, just like school, I don't have to fit.

 I will never be the most popular, I will never be asked opinions on the big products, but then if I get asked about the stuff that I, and families like mine, would use then that's ok.

I will never have thousands of people a day reading and sharing the stuff I write. But that's ok, if you like what I write, come back! That's good enough for me.

I will still go back to britmums next year. Again I'll be alone, hopefully I'll meet some truly amazing people. I won't expect people to give me the time of day, but that's ok too.....there's a LOT of people there.

One other thing.....

I HATED SCHOOL

27 comments:

  1. Great post! I think after hearing about this years Britmums it has really put of me off going....It seems to have really shaken people up!....I am happy in my own little world plodding along doing what I'm doing.

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    1. Don't let it stop you, just don't go with big expectations. It's such a good conference for learning x

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  2. Since being on Twitter I've found out more about the people whose blogs I've really admired for a long time, and I can only imagine how much more intense that would be meeting (or at least wondering past and eavesdropping on) them - and not necessarily in a positive way. I know what you mean about school - personally I was one of the nerdy kids who had maybe two equally outsider friends, and I think I'm that kind of blogger too! I want to write about the things I want to write about, but it's easy (for me) to get caught up in the desire to be 'in with the cool kids', and wish I was being invited to review things and have people listen, but when I get a bit of distance I wish I was more content with my two readers, you know?
    Thank you for sharing, and take care
    Lucas

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    1. We all want to be cool, but who defines what's cool? Xx

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  3. I think I was trying to run with the cool kids and it didn't work out.

    I really want to be friend to all and that's not possible.
    You will find your community indeed many if us are already here.
    And ps I struggled at school as well

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    1. I guess we hide behind the screen a lot. Real life through us a bit x

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  4. After Britmums I struggled and I seriously out my foot in it with folk .
    Mistakes made and there in going back but I must and have to move on.
    I'm here if you need me .
    I always am.http://www.ninjakillercat.co.uk/2014/07/silent-sunday.html

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  5. Great post. In many ways going to a "conference" is like going to school as a parent too. Everyone else seems to be in competition with you, whether you want to be or not, it's so tiring. I didn't go this year, after attending two out of the last 3. Haven't made my mind up about next year as am fairly ambivalent about it.

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    1. I'm going again, I love the learning process it offers. But with eyes wide open in future x

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  6. This post is like you jumped in my head and wrote down my thoughts! I am feeling exactly the same. I was so excited for britmums but came home a little deflated and I feel social media has changed since coming back too as people have found little clicks that they formed while there. I'm not at all bothered about going next year x

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    1. It an overwhelming experience. However, next year could be totally different again, so I shall be there x

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  7. Very much what I thought first time I'd heard of it and didn't go. That was when it was Cybermummy. I have always found Britmums very friendly, but this year (my third) was different. There was a shift in atmosphere like you've said. I hope there was another category which was friendly? I enjoyed meeting you.

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    1. Oh, there were so many other categories, too many too name. You were wonderfully lovely and friendly, just as I expected x

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  8. I don't think that I fit into any of the above categories and I suspect that goes for my favourite bloggers too. I have never been to a blogging conference, though there is a possibility of one in Ireland, so I yet may! I'm not in any cliques either, though some Irish bloggers are now real life friends after we met, so I guess we support each other x

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    1. I think we all have a common bond and that's blogging. Other than that I like being an individual x

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  9. I struggled with the fact that it was just so big as a conference, and so there were plenty of people like you, whose blog I've read, who I just didn't get to meet. Plenty of others who I was too scared to join in with, and more still who were already talking to others and I'm not good at interrupting! Think maybe more could be done on introducing new people.. speed-dating type idea?! Maybe not with 700 people at once though :D Hope I meet you somewhere soon! x

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    1. I hope we meet, one day. It is incredibly big, the courtyard was a nice touch this year, very Zen like, a good place to catch your breathe x

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  10. I don't fit in to any of those categories, can I have one for me please, something like plods along with her blog!? I'd like to go to some blogging events but it also scares me!!

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    1. You could try one of the tots100 meet ups 1st, they are smaller. You don't fit a category and that's a good thing xx

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  11. You are popular with me, but then again I was the weirdo with no mates at school so not sure that helps much! I found I still felt pretty shy at Britmums this year, takes me a while to feel relaxed with new people and there were a LOT of them!

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    1. I loved our little smokers get togethers outside! (That really did remind me of school lol). Maybe next year I'll be braver again x

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  12. I was only there on day one. I so wanted to stay for the awards and see day two aswell. I also feel outside the set groups, but I was the same at school too. X

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    1. I didn't see you! Hopefully us misfits, fit together ☺x

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  13. You are one of my fav bloggers. Hopefully I'll get to meet you next year at Britmums xxx

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    1. Oh wow! What a lovely thing to say! Definitely love to meet you xx

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  14. I think what ever you do especially with women on mass (a nightmare in my book! Always need some men to dilute the effect probably not enough of them at this event I would imagine) you are always going to get clicky groups. That is life and human nature, think of the school gates oh I hated those day's sometimes.

    My blogging life reflects my real life, I love people from all walks of life so love lots of different types of blogs too.

    My radar detects the fake people and homes in on the genuine ones. Lots of them in the blogging world and you are right some of what I call the 'Blog Famous' people are so warm, lovely and genuine and ultimately that is what a good blogger is about.

    Anyone with their head too far up there blogging arse, well keep it up there!!!

    Not yet been to Britmum's and quite possibly for the reason of some of the things you wrote about here xxx

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    1. Even though there are some blogging shoe offs, I think the majority are, as you say, warm and friendly. I will continue to go as, I'm sure, next year will be a totally different experience again. Would love to meet you one day though xx

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